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4 Reasons Younger Women Need Older Women in Their Lives

Melissa MeredithMelissa Meredith

A few years ago, our local church’s women’s ministry team hosted an outdoor dinner party. We wanted to gather the women who were already investing in the life of another woman in the church and talk about how we could equip other women to do the same.

We dragged tables and low chairs out into a grassy pasture, strung lights, and ate barbeque with all the country “sides.” Of the twenty women present, ten were college-aged to thirty-something and ten were forty and above.

As women began to spill out onto the pasture and make their way to the tables, there were college women and young professionals; newlyweds, wives, and young moms; empty nesters and grandmas; singles and widows. And as the bread was passed and drinks were refilled over the course of the night, we saw something happen across the table. Biblical mentoring was organically unfolding with each course just as God designed it in Titus 2:3-5:

Older women likewise are to . . . teach what is good, and so train the young women . . . that the Word of God may not be reviled.

After dinner, the older women waved goodbye as the younger women volunteered to clean up. As conversation flowed around the kitchen and onto the couches, we began talking about how much we needed, and wanted, older women in our lives after such a refreshing night. While we all craved community with women our own age, there was something missing that we couldn’t get from our peers.

So, for the older women in the faith, consider these four reasons why we as younger women want, and need, you in our lives.

  1. Your presence gives us a strong model of biblical femininity.
    With each new wave of secular feminism, and as each new generation of women redefines what womanhood is, young women need older sisters in Christ in their local church to speak honestly and boldly about what the Bible has to say about biblical womanhood. If young followers of Christ are to become deeply rooted in God’s Word and begin putting on the clothing of righteousness (Colossians 3:12–17), then they want more from you than a hug or a quick “hello” in the church restroom. They need your consistent presence in their lives outside of the bible study classroom. And as you share life with them, the biblical models of singleness, marriage, and motherhood are on display.

Are you investing in the life of someone spiritually younger than you? Know that the young women in your church want, and need, you to be. Start by looking around you in the ways you are already serving. Invite one younger lady, or ten, out to dinner and begin there. I imagine you’ll discover what we did under that big, open sky in that grassy pasture: when older women teach what is good, groves of young women rejoice and come back for more.

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