Charles Stone
The three kinds of people in every church:
- The energizers: their presence makes us feel better, buoys our spirits, and fills our tanks.
- The regular folks: they may not buoy our spirits, but they don’t demoralize us either. They make up the largest group.
- The drainers: they sap our joy and can ruin our day.
The main difference between the energizers and the drainers are their expectations of us.
The energizers don’t place great expectations on us. The drainers do.
We don’t measure up to the drainers’ expectations. Either our preaching or counseling or leading or availability is not enough. These subtle unmet expectations may not be overt, but when we’re around these people, we feel their unspoken disapproval.
Edwards pens these profound words:
When our credo becomes “I am as you desire me,” we have lost the very thing that will enable us to minister effectively: our authenticity.
Edwards rounds out his thoughts with three insights into how Jesus responded to His drainers.
- First, Jesus retreated from His drainers to refresh Himself and seek God. He regularly sought renewal.
- Second, Jesus balanced His drainers with His energizers.
- Third, Jesus didn’t allow the drainers to deter Him from His plan and purpose.
Although Jesus practiced a rhythm of renewal and time away from His drainers, He never got rid of them.
He still had to contend with them, just as we pastors must do in our churches.
Not everyone liked Jesus. Not everyone will like us. But God’s grace gives us what we need to serve even the most draining drainers.
For an in-depth look at people pleasing in the church, consider my third book: People Pleasing Pastors: Avoiding the Pitfalls of Approval Motivated Leadership.