Healthy Leaders


5 Signs You’re a Leader Who Talks Too Much

Charles StoneCharles Stone

Nobody likes to talk to others who monopolize conversations and drone on about themselves. Healthy conversations should be two-way streets but science tells us that we tend to spend 60% of our conversations talking about ourselves. And unfortunately, leaders can talk too much, not necessarily by monopolizing conversations, but by giving too many answers. So, how do you know if you are a leader who talks too much and what can we do to stop? Consider these indicators.

5 signs you’re a leader who talks too much:

  1. You do more than half the talking in staff meetings.
  1. Staff and volunteers come to you for answers more often than to offer solutions.
  1. You tend to rush conversations with others.
  1. Silence in a conversation really, really bothers you.
  1. While another person is talking, you’re framing your response.

I suggest these three solutions to help you stop talking too much.

  1. Practice the art of the W.A.I.T.
  1. Use the AWE question.
  1. Ask “What do you think?”

The Scriptures often remind us to listen more and talk less. These are my two favorites on this topic.

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. (James 1.19 NLT)

Answering before listening is both stupid and rude. (Prov. 18.13 The Message)

What has helped you become a better listener?

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