Healthy Leaders


Three Kinds of People that Fill Every Church

Charles StoneCharles Stone

The three kinds of people in every church:

The main difference between the energizers and the drainers are their expectations of us.

The energizers don’t place great expectations on us. The drainers do.

We don’t measure up to the drainers’ expectations. Either our preaching or counseling or leading or availability is not enough. These subtle unmet expectations may not be overt, but when we’re around these people, we feel their unspoken disapproval.

Edwards pens these profound words:

When our credo becomes “I am as you desire me,” we have lost the very thing that will enable us to minister effectively: our authenticity.

Edwards rounds out his thoughts with three insights into how Jesus responded to His drainers.

Although Jesus practiced a rhythm of renewal and time away from His drainers, He never got rid of them.

He still had to contend with them, just as we pastors must do in our churches.

Not everyone liked Jesus. Not everyone will like us. But God’s grace gives us what we need to serve even the most draining drainers.

For an in-depth look at people pleasing in the church, consider my third book: People Pleasing Pastors: Avoiding the Pitfalls of Approval Motivated Leadership.

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